The man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate." Then the LORD God said to the woman, "What is this you have done?" And the woman said, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate."
From the beginning of time women have been blamed for many of the sinful choices of men. I am not a feminist, nor am I against men, but when somebody starts to victim blame against rape survivors, I get a littled tiffed being that I am one.
Adam blamed Eve for giving him the apple to eat. But did Eve force Adam to eat the apple? Adam FREELY took the apple. Adam FREELY ate of the apple. Nobody forced it down his throat or forced him to eat it or threatened him that if he didn't eat it something awful would happen. Adam could have taken the higher road and not eaten the apple and been the leader of the household. But he didn't. He CHOSE to eat that fruit that day. Eve only offered it to him.
Nowadays it is a bit more serious. A man rapes a woman. She was wearing a mini skirt, had drank a couple drinks, even kissed the guy a few times. Once they started making out, she said no, she changed her mind. He didn't listen. He figures she's just teasing. Again she'd said no and still he keeps going forward with his moves. He rapes her. Even if she had said 'please stop' or 'please don't' that would have been enough.
Did he ASK her if what he was doing is okay? Did he ask her consent to have sex? It is HER body after all, not his to play with. Just because he bought her dinner and she kissed him a few times doesn't mean she owes him ANYTHING.
If you don't ASK for permission, it is RAPE, even if she doesn't say anything and remains silent! Silence does NOT imply consent!!
If she says STOP and you continue, it is RAPE!
If you pursue her after she says NO, it is RAPE!
Unless she has said yes it is okay to tough her, then it is HANDS OFF and her body is OFF LIMITS!!
The victim, regardless of age, attire, location or time of day is NEVER EVER TO BLAME and should NEVER BE HELD RESPONSIBLE in ANY WAY!
