It has been two weeks from Hell. I've lost 2 friends by way of death/passing. One on one day to cancer, and one the next from a stroke...wham wham. and then I've lost 4 friendships in that same time for reasons unbeknownst to me. I guess people really don't like it when you tell them that things have to be equal from now on. It's one thing to force a person to wear the shoe that is tossed by a friend to them, but when it comes to me tossing that shoe back, it's like they suddenly become the victim. Look out! Suddenly they are mad, outraged, and so on. All of a sudden when it is their turn to buy treats and provide supplies they buck and kick and scream.
I was always taught that you find out who your true friends are when you set boundaries, and boy is that true. I set boundaries with ONE friend and lost THREE friends in total. Two others because they got involved in the gossip of the one against my wishes. Never get caught up in gossip of two people arguing. You will end up having to choose a side or play both.
Be brave and set those boundaries. If you 'lose' so-called friends, you have to wonder if they were your real friends to begin with. True friends will accept your boundaries and respect them, not tell you to watch how cold and calculated they can be.
Blessings.
